• Am I Being Abused?

  • This Checklist will help you determine if you are in an abusive relationship.

    Abuse can be physical, emotional, psychological, and/or sexual. It can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. If you’re being abused, help is available and you can get out safely. In the United States, contact the National Domestic Abuse hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). If you’re a woman, you can locate your nearest domestic violence shelter for women here.

    Here is the beginning of the Checklist:

    1. I’m afraid of him/her most of the time.
    2. He/she blows up over the smallest things.
    3. I act differently around him/her to avoid blow-ups. I’m afraid to be my true self.
    4. I obey his/her orders to avoid blow-ups.
    5. He/she has unpredictable behavior. One minute everything seems fine, and the next minute he/she is angry and abusive.
    6. I avoid certain topics and doing certain things out of fear he/she will get angry.
    7. He/she has a bad temper and yells at me a lot.
    8. I feel like no matter what I do, I can never make him/her happy.
    9. He/she acts like everything is fine in public, but instantly lashes out as soon as we’re home.
    10. He/she criticizes, insults, embarrasses, and/or belittles me when we’re alone.